{"id":122040,"date":"2018-11-19T12:00:50","date_gmt":"2018-11-19T12:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=122040"},"modified":"2018-11-13T13:54:04","modified_gmt":"2018-11-13T13:54:04","slug":"how-a-traumatized-america-finds-relief-in-hate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2018\/11\/how-a-traumatized-america-finds-relief-in-hate\/","title":{"rendered":"How a Traumatized America Finds Relief in Hate"},"content":{"rendered":"

The connecting line between addiction and hate, according to Dr. Gabor Mat\u00e9, is trauma. <\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Dr. Gabor Mat\u00e9 – Abraham Gutman \/ Staff<\/p><\/div>\n

2 Nov 2018 – <\/em>Robert Bowers<\/a>\u00a0allegedly killed 11 worshipers in a synagogue in Pittsburgh because he hates Jews. Dylann Roof<\/a>\u00a0killed nine worshipers in a church in South Carolina because he hates black people. Cesar Sayoc<\/a>\u00a0is believed to have sent more than a dozen pipe bombs by mail because he hates Democrats and CNN.<\/p>\n

Hate seems to be everywhere we look \u2014 and it is violent. \u00a0According to a Government Accountability Office report<\/a>, in the 15 years after 9\/11, right-wing domestic terrorists killed 106 people. The FBI recorded <\/a>more than 6,000 hate crimes in 2016 \u2014 the last year for which data are available.<\/p>\n

What drives so much hate and can it be stopped?<\/p>\n

Dr. Gabor Mat\u00e9<\/a>‘s work can help us get toward an answer. Mat\u00e9 is a Hungarian-born Canadian physician and best-selling author who is best known for his work on addiction and attention deficit disorder. He thinks that just as some people find relief in drugs like heroin, some are finding relief and validation in harboring hate. Both are caused by an attempt to mask the pain of childhood trauma.<\/p>\n

This week, Mat\u00e9 visited Philadelphia to give a keynote address in a symposium about addiction hosted by the Mural Arts Program<\/a>. After the symposium, he sat for an interview with the Inquirer.<\/p>\n

According to Mat\u00e9, addiction is any behavior \u2014 not necessarily just drug use \u2014 that individuals cannot stop doing, despite harmful consequences, because it provides them with some relief or pleasure. He remembers a sex worker who told him that the first time she tried heroin, it felt like a “warm, soft hug.” For Mat\u00e9, the question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?”<\/p>\n

The connecting line between addiction and hate, according to Mat\u00e9, is trauma. “What happened in Pittsburgh is a manifestation of trauma,” Mat\u00e9 told the Inquirer. “There is no mass killer who wasn’t a traumatized person.”<\/p>\n

Trauma is not foreign to Mat\u00e9. He was born in Budapest<\/a> to Jewish parents a month before the Nazi occupation of Hungary in 1944. His grandparents were killed in Auschwitz and his father was sent to forced labor. For his safety, his mother decided to give him to a Christian stranger. \u00a0They were separated for a few weeks. Family members were eventually reunited and made their way to Canada. He became a physician,\u00a0treating people in addiction on the eastside of downtown Vancouver, the drug-use capital of North America.\u00a0 During this time, he was a\u00a0workaholic, depressed, and addicted to purchasing classical-music CDs, once spending as much as $8,000 on music in one week.<\/p>\n

Just like addiction \u2014 to drugs or classic music \u2014 provides relief to people who were traumatized as children, so does hate.<\/p>\n

People like the shooter from Pittsburgh have, according to Mat\u00e9, “anger [that] has got nothing to do with what they think they are angry about. They are just angry because of what life has done to them as children and then they find external targets.” Politics plays a role,\u00a0too. “It will give them a target and an explanation to their rage and an outlet to express their rage,” and\u00a0 “adds more and more fuel to direct their violence toward certain groups,” he says.<\/p>\n

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Canadian Hungarian-born physician and bestselling author Gabor Mat\u00e9 in Philadelphia for a symposium on addiction and trauma hosted by Mural Arts on October 29, 2018. Abraham Gutman \/ Staff<\/p><\/div>\n

In his keynote address, Mat\u00e9 critiqued the view that prevention campaigns can solve\u00a0addiction crises. “If those campaigns of ‘just say no’ [to drugs] were so successful, why are we having a 9\/11 every three weeks?” \u2014 referring to the overdose death toll in the country.<\/p>\n

Mat\u00e9 talks about hate in a similar fashion: “You can’t ‘just say no’ to hate.”<\/p>\n

“You can’t fight hatred,” Mat\u00e9 explains. “Telling people not to hate is not fighting hatred.”<\/p>\n

But there are solutions. The first step is recognizing the problem.<\/p>\n

He says: “Instead of saying this is not our way, we should be saying, ‘Let’s get real \u2014 this [mass shooting] is happening. It is happening a lot. It is happening increasingly.’ ”<\/p>\n

After recognizing that\u00a0there is a problem, we need to\u00a0find out\u00a0what\u00a0causes it. “We have to take an honest look at ourselves as a society and as a culture and say what is it about us that foments this kind of stuff,” he says.<\/p>\n

Two major forces contribute to hate: racism and inequality.<\/p>\n

“The research is absolutely clear,” Mat\u00e9 says. “The more inequality in a society, the more hate, the more dysfunction, the more mental illness, the more physical illness.” It should come as no surprise, then, that we see more addiction and more mass shootings since “the inequality is rising all the time.” Violence against racial, ethnic, or religious groups “is a manifestation of a society that foments division amongst people and sets people against each other.”<\/p>\n

We\u00a0can reduce\u00a0the harm of hate by not letting it boil over. We can\u00a0vote for legislators who will\u00a0enact gun laws to reduce the harm in those moments that it does.\u00a0 And\u00a0we can create an environment that allows parents to be there for their children emotionally to prevent trauma \u2014 that includes paid family leave and stopping the fetishization\u00a0of hard work.<\/p>\n

Both hate and addiction\u00a0 are a manifestation of a society that is ill, disconnected, and traumatized. It is an indictment of American culture and society that anyone finds relief by picking up a rifle and driving to a synagogue. To fight hate, we need to change our culture and society.<\/p>\n

That’s a big task, but\u00a0Mat\u00e9 believes it is possible: “It’s going to get worse before it gets better, but in the long term, I don’t have any doubts.”<\/p>\n

Go to Original \u2013 philly.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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