{"id":165737,"date":"2020-08-31T12:00:33","date_gmt":"2020-08-31T11:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=165737"},"modified":"2020-08-01T10:37:51","modified_gmt":"2020-08-01T09:37:51","slug":"d-h-lawrence-on-trees-solitude-and-how-we-root-ourselves-when-relationships-collapse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2020\/08\/d-h-lawrence-on-trees-solitude-and-how-we-root-ourselves-when-relationships-collapse\/","title":{"rendered":"D.H. Lawrence on Trees, Solitude, and How We Root Ourselves When Relationships Collapse"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><em>\u201cOne must possess oneself, and be alone in possession of oneself.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover.jpg\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-165738\" src=\"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover-194x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"194\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover-194x300.jpg 194w, https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover-662x1024.jpg 662w, https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover-768x1187.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover-994x1536.jpg 994w, https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/aaronsrod_dhlawrence-cover.jpg 1004w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 194px) 100vw, 194px\" \/><\/a>To walk among trees is to be reminded that although <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2017\/12\/08\/the-songs-of-trees-david-haskell\/\" >relationships weave the fabric of life<\/a>, one can only be in relationship \u2014 in a forest or a family or a friendship \u2014 when firmly planted in the sovereignty of one\u2019s own being, when resolutely reaching for one\u2019s own light.<\/p>\n<p>A century ago, Hermann Hesse contemplated how trees model for us this foundation of integrity in his <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2020\/05\/04\/natascha-mcelhone-wander-hesse-kew\/\" >staggeringly beautiful love letter to trees<\/a> \u2014 how they stand lonesome-looking even in a forest, yet \u201cnot like hermits who have stolen away out of some weakness, but like great, solitary men, like Beethoven and Nietzsche.\u201d Celebrating them as \u201cthe most penetrating preachers,\u201d he reverenced the silent fortitude with which \u201cthey struggle with all the force of their lives for one thing only: to fulfill themselves according to their own laws, to build up their own form, to represent themselves.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/they-were-lonesome-from-trees-at-night-by-art-young_print?curator=brainpicker\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-68435\" src=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?resize=680%2C1061&amp;ssl=1\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?resize=240%2C375&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?resize=320%2C499&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?resize=768%2C1199&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/artyoung_treesatnight6.jpg?resize=600%2C937&amp;ssl=1 600w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"999\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Art from <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2019\/08\/06\/trees-at-night-art-young\/\" ><em>Trees at Night<\/em><\/a> by Art Young, 1926. (Available <a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/they-were-lonesome-from-trees-at-night-by-art-young_print?curator=brainpicker\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">as a print<\/a>.)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>A supreme challenge of human life is reconciling the longing to fulfill ourselves in union, in partnership, in love, with the urgency of fulfilling ourselves according to our own solitary and sovereign laws. Writing at the same time as Hesse, living in exile in the mountains, having barely survived an attack of the deadly Spanish Flu that claimed tens of millions of lives, the polymathic creative force <strong>D.H. Lawrence<\/strong> (September 11, 1885\u2013March 2, 1930) took up the question of this divergent longing with great subtlety and splendor of insight in his autobiographically tinted novel <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Aarons-Rod-D-H-Lawrence\/dp\/1644393476\/?tag=braipick-20\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong><em>Aaron\u2019s Rod<\/em><\/strong><\/a> (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Aarons-Rod-David-Herbert-Lawrence-ebook-dp-B004TQR2BG\/dp\/B004TQR2BG\/?tag=braipick-20\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><em>free ebook<\/em><\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2020\/07\/21\/d-h-lawrence-aarons-rod-cypress-trees\/worldcat.org\/title\/aarons-rod\/oclc\/1122875383&amp;referer=brief_results\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><em>public library<\/em><\/a>), rooting the plot\u2019s climactic relationship resolution in a stunning passage about trees.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_63244\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-63244\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?resize=680%2C408&amp;ssl=1\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?w=1920&amp;ssl=1 1920w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?resize=240%2C144&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?resize=320%2C192&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?resize=768%2C460&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?resize=600%2C360&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/dhlawrence1.jpg?w=1360&amp;ssl=1 1360w\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"383\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">D.H. Lawrence<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>At a tea-party, the novel\u2019s protagonist meets the Marchesa del Torre \u2014 an American woman from the South, married to an Italian man and living with him in Tuscany; a woman of composure with an edge of beckoning aloofness, \u201csitting there, full-bosomed, rather sad, remote-seeming,\u201d a kind of modern Cleopatra brooding from under her dark, heavy-hanging hair out of an <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2016\/01\/25\/aubrey-beardsley-oscar-wilde-salome\/\" >Aubrey Beardsley drawing<\/a>. She strikes him as \u201cwonderful, and sinister,\u201d affects him \u201cwith a touch of horror.\u201d He falls under her spell, drawn to her as we are so often drawn to danger by the magnetic pull of the sublime, with its dipoles of beauty and terror.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/art-by-aubrey-beardsley-for-salome-by-oscar-wilde-18932254492_print?curator=brainpicker\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/www.brainpickings.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/salome_beardsley14.jpg?w=680&amp;ssl=1\" width=\"640\" height=\"866\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">One of Aubrey Beardsley\u2019s <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2016\/01\/25\/aubrey-beardsley-oscar-wilde-salome\/\" >revolutionary illustrations for Oscar Wilde\u2019s <em>Salome<\/em><\/a>. (Available <a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/art-by-aubrey-beardsley-for-salome-by-oscar-wilde-18932254492_print?curator=brainpicker\"  target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">as a print<\/a>.)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>When their affair collapses under the weight of its own impossibility, he finds himself \u2014 and finds his self, his sovereignty of soul \u2014 among the trees. Lawrence writes:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>One must possess oneself, and be alone in possession of oneself.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>He sat for long hours among the cypress trees of Tuscany. And never had any trees seemed so like ghosts, like soft, strange, pregnant presences. He lay and watched tall cypresses breathing and communicating, faintly moving and as it were walking in the small wind. And his soul seemed to leave him and to go far away, far back, perhaps, to where life was all different and time passed otherwise than time passes now. As in clairvoyance he perceived it: that our life is only a fragment of the shell of life. That there has been and will be life, human life such as we do not begin to conceive. Much that is life has passed away from men, leaving us all mere bits. In the dark, mindful silence and inflection of the cypress trees, lost races, lost language, lost human ways of feeling and of knowing. Men have known as we can no more know, have felt as we can no more feel. Great life-realities gone into the darkness. But the cypresses commemorate.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Complement with Robert Macfarlane on <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2019\/11\/13\/robert-macfarlane-underland-tree-love\/\" >how trees illuminate the secret to healthy love<\/a>, Pablo Neruda\u2019s <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2020\/04\/26\/leland-melvin-reads-pablo-neruda-chilean-forest\/\" >breathtaking love letter to the forest<\/a>, and Mary Oliver\u2019s short, shimmering poem <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2019\/09\/23\/amanda-palmer-mary-oliver-when-i-am-among-the-trees\/\" >\u201cWhen I Am Among the Trees,\u201d<\/a> then revisit Lawrence on <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2018\/01\/02\/d-h-lawrence-letters-materialism\/\" >the antidote to the malady of materialism<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><em>_______________________________________<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/maria-popova.gif\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-106597\" src=\"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/maria-popova.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"100\" height=\"100\" \/><\/a><em>Brain Pickings<\/em><em> is the brain child of Maria Popova, an interestingness hunter-gatherer and curious mind at large obsessed with combinatorial creativity who also writes for <\/em><em>Wired<\/em><em> UK and <\/em><em>The Atlantic<\/em><em>, among others, and is an MIT Futures of Entertainment Fellow. She has gotten occasional help from a handful of <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/index.php\/about\/authors\/\" >guest contributors<\/a>. Email: <a href=\"brainpicker@brainpickings.org\">brainpicker@brainpickings.org<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2020\/07\/21\/d-h-lawrence-aarons-rod-cypress-trees\/?mc_cid=2d7c97284b&amp;mc_eid=52f96bd8dd\" >Go to Original \u2013 brainpickings.org<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cOne must possess oneself, and be alone in possession of oneself.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":165738,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[63],"tags":[1177],"class_list":["post-165737","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-inspirational","tag-inspirational"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165737","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165737"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165737\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165738"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165737"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165737"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165737"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}