{"id":178160,"date":"2021-02-15T12:00:36","date_gmt":"2021-02-15T12:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=178160"},"modified":"2021-01-28T07:47:08","modified_gmt":"2021-01-28T07:47:08","slug":"anais-nin-on-inner-conflict-the-interconnectedness-of-all-things-and-what-maturity-really-means","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2021\/02\/anais-nin-on-inner-conflict-the-interconnectedness-of-all-things-and-what-maturity-really-means\/","title":{"rendered":"Ana\u00efs Nin on Inner Conflict, the Interconnectedness of All Things, and What Maturity Really Means"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>\u201cAny experience carried out deeply to its ultimate leads you beyond yourself into a larger relation to the experience of others.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cWe are all one question,\u201d<\/em> Mary Ruefle wrote in her sublime essay on why we read<\/a>, \u201cand the best answer seems to be love \u2014 a connection between things.\u201d<\/em> And yet, so often, we forget \u2014 we disconnect.<\/p>\n

Decades before Parker Palmer\u2019s beautiful meditation on the elusive art of wholeness<\/a>, modernity\u2019s most prolific and perceptive diarist, Ana\u00efs Nin<\/a>, contemplated with great elegance and insight the self-inflicted violence of our internal conflicts. From The Diary of Ana\u00efs Nin, Vol. 3: 1939\u20131944<\/em><\/strong><\/a>\u00a0(public library<\/a><\/em>) \u2014 which gave us Nin on real love<\/a>, Paris vs. New York<\/a>, the secret of successful mass movements<\/a>, and her pioneering venture in self-publishing<\/a> \u2014 comes a gorgeous entry from October of 1943, in which Nin considers how we deny ourselves such vitalizing integration and what we can do to attain it.<\/p>\n

Nin writes:<\/p>\n

When we are in conflict we tend to make such sharp oppositions between ideas and attitudes and get caught and entangled in what seems to be a hopeless choice, but when the neurotic ambivalence is resolved one tends to move beyond sharp differences, sharply defined boundaries and begins to see the interaction between everything, the relation between everything.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Three decades before Susan Sontag admonished that buying into polarities imprisons us<\/a>, Nin contemplates how we can bridge our anguishing inner divides by embracing the interconnectedness of all things \u2014 the true mark of maturity:<\/p>\n

I opposed subjective to objective, imagination to realism. I thought that having gone so deeply into my own feelings and dramas I could never again reach objectivity and knowledge of others. But now I know that any experience carried out deeply to its ultimate leads you beyond yourself into a larger relation to the experience of others. If you intensify and complete your subjective emotions, visions, you see their relation to others\u2019 emotions. It is not a question of choosing between them, one at the cost of another, but a matter of completion, of inclusion, an encompassing, unifying, and integrating which makes maturity.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The Diary of Ana\u00efs Nin, Vol. 3<\/em><\/strong><\/a> remains an endlessly revisitable trove of wisdom on the creative life and the human journey. Complement it with Nin on the creative benefits of keeping a diary<\/a>, why emotional excess is essential to creativity<\/a>, and the elusive nature of joy<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a><\/em>Brain Pickings is the brain child of Maria Popova, an interestingness hunter-gatherer and curious mind at large obsessed with combinatorial creativity who also writes for <\/em>Wired UK and<\/em> The Atlantic, among others, and is an MIT Futures of Entertainment Fellow. She has gotten occasional help from a handful of guest contributors<\/a>. Email: brainpicker@brainpickings.org<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Go to Original \u2013 brainpickings.org<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cWe are all one question, and the best answer seems to be love \u2014 a connection between things.\u201d \u201cAny experience carried out deeply to its ultimate leads you beyond yourself into a larger relation to the experience of others.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":106597,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[63],"tags":[1177,642],"class_list":["post-178160","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-inspirational","tag-inspirational","tag-literature"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/178160","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=178160"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/178160\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/106597"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=178160"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=178160"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=178160"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}