{"id":219745,"date":"2022-09-19T12:00:56","date_gmt":"2022-09-19T11:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=219745"},"modified":"2022-09-15T03:24:31","modified_gmt":"2022-09-15T02:24:31","slug":"understanding-childhood-trauma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2022\/09\/understanding-childhood-trauma\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding Childhood Trauma"},"content":{"rendered":"

11 Sep 2022 – <\/em>The word \u2018trauma\u2019 occupies a specific place in our cultural imagination, where it is largely seen as something so big that it only affects someone out there, people we do not know or may never come across. It also captures a sense of humility when one comes across a person who suffers from trauma. But the reality is that trauma impacts more people than we could imagine. We cross paths with trauma survivors in superstores, at work places, in the gym and in social events, without knowing the story of the person behind a gentle smile or the hurt behind an aloof face.<\/p>\n

Trauma is an experience where one\u2019s dream to be alive and to be loved breaks apart. Trauma is a piercing pain running through the reaches of one\u2019s breath. Trauma is the quiver one feels through the muscles and nerves in one\u2019s body simply from the act of wanting to fall into sleep. Trauma is the hesitation in bringing one\u2019s true feelings or dreams into words because of the fear that one might be attacked any moment.<\/p>\n

Although the word \u2018trauma\u2019 occupies the associations of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in popular thinking, the kind of trauma I am writing about is the one where character-by-character, the story of one\u2019s childhood will fall apart if the symptomatic rage that it creates were allowed to run free. Childhood trauma impacts more people than we recognise, and it leaves a lasting impact on the brain, body, nervous system, relationships and livelihoods of those who survive it.<\/p>\n

Honouring the story of \u2018survival\u2019, as taught by Fisher (2017), is the key when I start working with trauma survivors in the therapy room. Paradoxically, survival is both a human tragedy, when we think of what had to be survived, and a blessing. Tragedy because the beautiful minds and bodies of little humans, children that we all once were, are not equipped to deal with threat that they face from significant-others such as their parents, siblings or peers. Blessing because we might question from a transpersonal perspective: what is it in that little human that guides them to find their way out of it and still stay alive and breathing in their twenties, thirties, or even later when they first come to therapy?<\/p>\n

It is worth defining what I refer to as \u2018Childhood Trauma\u2019 because this term can be so colloquial and subjective that we can lose the sight of its impact. In academic literature, this is often known as \u2018Complex Trauma\u2019 (Arnold & Fisch, 2011) or \u2018Small t Traumas\u2019 (Wallin, 2015). It is known as Small t Traumas because it is an accumulation of small experiences spread out over a period of time in a child\u2019s development that overwhelm and exceed the capacity of his brain, body and the nervous system to deal with it. These experiences subsequently activate the \u2018animal defence survival responses\u2019 (Fisher, 2017) within a child, such as flight (disappearing in fantasy), fight (throwing things or screaming in pain), freeze (going numb and disconnecting from the body) and fawn (pleasing the abuser to avoid further abuse).<\/p>\n

Complex Trauma can be caused by experiences where a child is repeatedly subjected to events such as: humiliation, molestation, bullying, domestic violence (witnessing or experiencing), prolonged neglect, and emotional or sexual abuse etc. Any such experience that threatens the physical or psychological integrity of a child is an experience that will get stored in the brain with a life of its own such that it will make its way into one\u2019s consciousness over and over again through the means of body sensations, nightmares, conscious remembering and sudden bouts of fear, anxiety or numbness.<\/p>\n

The aftermaths of Complex Trauma often show up in adult clients in psychotherapy as follows. Difficulties in sustaining friendships or intimate relationships because one feels that one might be emotionally or physically attacked any minute, \u2018just like\u2019 one\u2019s parents or siblings did. Difficulties in concentrating or focusing in one\u2019s studies or work tasks because one quite often feels \u2018on the edge\u2019. Difficulties during variable periods of time in falling asleep; waking up in the middle of the night by light sounds with a racing heartbeat.<\/p>\n

Feeling unsafe around people who love us because in one\u2019s story as a child \u2013 love, gratitude, affection and humour often became entangled with humiliation, violence or abuse. Finding it difficult to take space in a work meeting and talk about one\u2019s work because of the unconscious fear of abuse or punishment. Finding jokes or humour as disturbing, and then cutting oneself off from the person who shared them. Difficulties staying in one job because of the underlying fright of being emotionally abused sooner or later.<\/p>\n

When I hear people\u2019s stories of surviving childhood trauma, I sometimes hear of anecdotes where a man might be told by his friends to \u2018man up\u2019 and \u2018get on with your life\u2019; and where a woman might be told by her friends to \u2018grow up\u2019 and \u2018stop being so needy\u2019. Whilst most friends mean well and want to see their friends get better, what people do not realise is that trauma does not disappear. What happened five, ten, or even thirty years ago is not simply the past: it is an invisible injury that lives inside a survivor\u2019s brain and body, and replays over and over, as shown by brain scan studies (Van der Kolk, 2015), until it is resolved. Equally, some individuals survive trauma by believing that they are \u2018now\u2019 strong enough and that \u2018it was nothing\u2019.<\/p>\n

We live in a fortunate time where a large volume of research has been carried out on the impact, symptoms and treatment of childhood trauma. There is now hope that the survivors of childhood trauma can get better, and go on to live lives filled with hope, humility and beautiful dreams. If you are looking for a psychotherapist to work through your childhood trauma, you just need to ensure that your therapist has specialist training in trauma treatment.<\/p>\n

References:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Arnold, C., & Fisch, R. (2011). The Impact of Complex Trauma on Development. <\/em>Plymouth: Jason Aronson.<\/p>\n

Fisher, J. (2017). Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation.<\/em> Oxford: Routledge.<\/p>\n

Van der Kolk, B. (2015). The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body In the Transformation of Trauma. <\/em>London: Penguin Books.<\/p>\n

Wallin, D. J. (2015). Attachment in Psychotherapy <\/em>(Paperback ed.). <\/em>New York: The Guilford Press.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a> <\/em>Sumeet Grover is a UKCP Registered Psychotherapist working in private practice in Bedfordshire, UK. His third book of poetry, <\/em>Signals, was published by Smallberry Press in 2017. He has authored also: <\/em>House Arrest & Disobedience (2015<\/em>) and <\/em>Change (2011<\/em>). He is a winner of the Portico Brotherton Open Poetry Prize 2014 and was shortlisted for the Jane Martin Poetry Prize in 2014 & 2015. Grover is a member of the <\/em>TRANSCEND Network for Peace Development Environmen<\/strong><\/a>t<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Although the word \u2018trauma\u2019 occupies the associations of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in popular thinking, the kind of trauma I am writing about is the one where character-by-character, the story of one\u2019s childhood will fall apart if the symptomatic rage that it creates were allowed to run free. Childhood trauma impacts more people than we recognise<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":202684,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[2930,281,285],"class_list":["post-219745","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-transcend-members","tag-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd","tag-psychology","tag-trauma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219745","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=219745"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219745\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/202684"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=219745"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=219745"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=219745"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}