{"id":252840,"date":"2024-01-29T12:01:22","date_gmt":"2024-01-29T12:01:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=252840"},"modified":"2024-01-24T08:32:24","modified_gmt":"2024-01-24T08:32:24","slug":"whose-child-is-this-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2024\/01\/whose-child-is-this-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Whose Child Is This?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Photo: Courtesy of Dr. Amer Hosin.<\/p><\/div>\n

Whose Child is This?<\/strong>\u00a0 Whose child is this?\u00a0 Is this child an Iraqi . . . an Israeli . . .\u00a0 a Chechnyan . . . an Afghani . . . a Kurd . . . a Nigerian?\u00a0\u00a0 Is she or he English, Indonesian, Spanish, Lebanese, Turkish, Congolese, Bosnian, Persian?\u00a0\u00a0 Does it matter?\u00a0 Is this child not a daughter or son to each of us?<\/p>\n

Is this child not a human being born of a union of a man and woman whose intimacy, whose passion, whose very breathe yielded a life that sought only to live . . . to enjoy some moments of laughter and delight, some moments of comfort and calm . . . to make yet another life.<\/p>\n

Now this child rests amidst the dust and debris of war . . . lifeless . . . torn and shattered . . . killed by someone whom she or he never knew, and would likely never meet.\u00a0 Death from a distance. . . a bomb from a plane, a shell from a mortar, a strap of explosives . . .\u00a0 intentional and willing, calculated and planned, a measured effort to destroy.<\/p>\n

The Source:<\/strong>\u00a0 an agent of death and destruction, a pilot or soldier, an insurgent or terrorist . . . does it matter? They have killed their own child . . . they have killed our child.\u00a0 And in doing so, they have diminished each of us as human beings, each of us as creatures of consciousness and conscience, each of us as reflections and carriers of life.\u00a0 Words cannot console her or his parents, if they, indeed, survived this horror. They are left with only endless pain . . . memories of a child eating, sleeping, playing . . . a reminder of a tragic moment inscribed in mortar and blood.<\/p>\n

Enough!\u00a0 Enough!<\/strong>\u00a0 Stand, speak, write, act against those who advocate violence and hate no matter the source — be they presidents, prime ministers, generals, terrorists, mullahs, rabbis, dictators, ministers, true believers . . .\u00a0 tell them that we do not share their quest for power and greed.\u00a0\u00a0 Tell them we do not share their hate, nor their blindness and indifference to suffering.\u00a0 Tell them we do not share their empty post-tragedy rhetoric designed to keep us mired in the fulfillment of their selfish needs. We are not pacified and contented by their explanations and assurances. We challenge and contest their motives!\u00a0 We resent and resist their excuses. How shallow their words in the face of dying or dead child.<\/p>\n

THIS IS OUR CHILD! <\/strong>\u00a0Today, we claim this child as our own, too late to keep her or him alive, too late to know her or his hopes and dreams, too late to know the promise and possibilities of their life had it been given the chance to be lived free of oppression, abuse, and indignity.<\/p>\n

But we are not too late to affirm to all living children that we will try to protect you, to guard you, and to shelter you from the terror of war and violence, and from an untimely, painful, and meaningless death, by choosing peace over war, compassion over violence, voice over silence, and conscience over comfort.<\/p>\n

Note:\u00a0 <\/strong>I first wrote this brief appeal in July, 2005, following a conference in Savannah, Georgia, in which Dr. Amer Hosin shared photos of death and suffering in the Middle East.\u00a0 I emailed this appeal in the December holiday season, when the poignant holiday carol, \u201cWhat child is this?\u201d<\/em><\/strong> is played endlessly on radio and television, testimony to Christian faith, but indirectly testimony to the consequences of violence against children, and the reality our hope for recovery and redemption reside in children \u2013 all children!<\/p>\n

Today, as I viewed the now iconic photo of the stalwart Syrian boy, covered in dust, his mind and body shattered by bombs he could never fathom, and I recalled the iconic photo of the naked Vietnamese girl escaping napalm. \u00a0I decided I must share this appeal today.\u00a0 It is upon all of us. What can we do to stop the destruction of life? What can we do end the reflexive response of violence and hate toward those we deem enemies.<\/p>\n

I say to you, I plead with you now: \u201cHate begets violence, and violence begets hate, and always innocents become the victims.\u201d We use the word \u201chate\u201d daily, casually expressing our so often disgust or revulsion with something as benign as broccoli, or an athletic team.\u00a0 \u201cI hate __________!<\/p>\n

The powerful emotion of \u201chate\u201d has escaped our conscious awareness! We \u201chate\u201d too much, too often, too easily; the consequences of the word and the behaviors it implies are lost to us.\u00a0 Ask: Do I have a right to \u201chate?\u201d Is \u201chate\u201d a choice? What do I mean when I say I \u201chate\u201d!\u00a0 Stare at the image of a dead Iraqi child? Embed the image of the struggling shocked Syrian boy in your mind. Make room for it!\u00a0 It is more important than so many other images you hold. Ask: Whose child is this<\/strong>? He or she is your child!<\/strong> If you deny this reality, then await the day the face returns to remind you of your failure, to haunt your minds as you look at your child.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a><\/em>Anthony J. Marsella, Ph.D., a member of the <\/em>TRANSCEND Network for Peace Development Environment<\/a>, is a past president of Psychologists for Social Responsibility, Emeritus Professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii\u2019s Manoa Campus in Honolulu, Hawaii, and past director of the World Health Organization Psychiatric Research Center in Honolulu. \u00a0He is known internationally as a pioneer figure in the study of culture and psychopathology who challenged the ethnocentrism and racial biases of many assumptions, theories, and practices in psychology and psychiatry. In more recent years, he has been writing and lecturing on peace and social justice. He has published 21 books and more than 300 articles, tech reports, and popular commentaries. His<\/em> TMS articles may be accessed<\/em> HERE<\/a> and he can be reached at <\/em>marsella@hawaii.edu<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Whose Child is This? Whose child is this? Is this child an Iraqi . . . an Israeli . . . a Chechnyan . . . an Afghani . . . a Kurd . . . a Nigerian? Is she or he English, Indonesian, Spanish, Lebanese, Turkish, Congolese, Bosnian, Persian? Does it matter? Is this child not a daughter or son to each of us? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":111348,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-252840","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-transcend-members"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/252840","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=252840"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/252840\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":252841,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/252840\/revisions\/252841"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/111348"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=252840"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=252840"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=252840"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}