{"id":317311,"date":"2026-06-15T12:00:33","date_gmt":"2026-06-15T11:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/?p=317311"},"modified":"2026-06-12T09:50:46","modified_gmt":"2026-06-12T08:50:46","slug":"blind-submission-to-authority-is-caused-by-bad-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.transcend.org\/tms\/2026\/06\/blind-submission-to-authority-is-caused-by-bad-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"Blind Submission to Authority Is Caused by Bad Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Raising kids who aren\u2019t allowed to say no to you is raising adults who don\u2019t think anyone should be allowed to oppose their rulers. <\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

9 Jun 2026\u00a0<\/em>–\u00a0Blind submission to authority is the result of propaganda and indoctrination, but it\u2019s also the result of bad parenting. Raising kids who aren\u2019t allowed to say no to you is raising adults who don\u2019t think anyone should be allowed to oppose their rulers.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s mainly what you\u2019re seeing in the comments section of any viral police brutality video with people defending the cop\u2019s actions and saying the victim should have complied with commands more perfectly. All they\u2019re really saying is \u201cDon\u2019t disobey Daddy and you won\u2019t get smacked!\u201d<\/p>\n

You can see their parenting in their faces when conversing about politics and news in person. Discuss the latest act of war or abuse with someone who\u2019s been trained to reflexively obey authority and you can watch them running calculations trying to find excuses to justify why the powerful are correct in this given instance, even if you\u2019re presenting them with brand new information. They never pause to reflect on whether their apologia is grounded in facts or morality; they begin with the assumption that the authority figure must be correct and work backward from there.<\/p>\n

All the worst things that have ever happened were the result of people obeying authority when they should have disobeyed. Genocides. Wars. Slavery. Tyranny. Injustice. They were all made possible by obedience, not disobedience. And that remains the case today.<\/p>\n

If you want to raise kids who\u2019ll help make the world a better place when they grow up, then you\u2019ve got to put your ego in the back seat and let them say no and walk their own path, because you are teaching them how to relate to authority in a world where the authority figures are the villains causing all our problems.<\/p>\n

Obviously you can\u2019t let your kid do things that will cause actual concrete harm to themselves, but most of the limits parents set on their children from day to day have nothing to do with protecting them from harm. If they don\u2019t want to kiss Grandpa then don\u2019t make them kiss Grandpa. If they don\u2019t want to eat this or that food then don\u2019t force them. If they reject you or hurt your feelings, don\u2019t put the needs of your ego in that moment ahead of your desire to raise a citizen who can defy authority when that is what\u2019s called for. The real material harm they cause by defying this or that social convention or going against your personal wishes is basically nothing, especially when compared to the harm that would be caused by training them to blindly obey authority in a world that is ruled by psychopaths.<\/p>\n

It is absolutely necessary to set boundaries with your children at times, because you need to be modeling what healthy boundary-setting looks like, and because you don\u2019t want to raise a malignant narcissist who thinks the world revolves around them and their desires. But it is equally necessary to show them that their own boundaries are legitimate and permissible, because otherwise they won\u2019t set them in their own lives.<\/p>\n

So many abusive dynamics arise from the erosion of people\u2019s healthy \u201cno\u201d. That\u2019s how people wind up joining cults and getting trapped in abusive marriages, and it\u2019s how they wind up consenting to the rule of abusive governments who should have been overthrown long ago. Their healthy \u201cno\u201d was gradually worn down, first by their parenting and then by the psychological manipulation of the abuser.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo\u201d is an essential skill. Giving your child a healthy \u201cno\u201d is as important as teaching them how to meet any other developmental milestone like walking, speaking, reading or preparing food. That\u2019s how you keep them free from abusive relationships, and that\u2019s how you keep their minds free from the propaganda of the powerful.<\/p>\n

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Caitlin Johnstone is a rogue journalist, poet, and utopia prepper<\/em>. Contact: <\/em>admin@caitlinjohnstone.com<\/a><\/p>\n

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